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Learn to stay calm during your divorce proceedings

On Behalf of | Dec 28, 2022 | Family Law

A flood of emotions accompanies filing for divorce in New Jersey, whether you have contemplated the action for a long time or have a sudden realization that you need to split. Emotions, both positive and negative, start well before the formal process and last long after it finishes. How do you get through it?

Typical big emotions that accompany divorce

Divorce brings a whirlwind of emotions. Among the negative emotions you may encounter are shock, guilt, grief, anger, fear and anxiety. Positive emotions can include relief and optimism, but you may also experience middling feelings that lie somewhere between happiness and sadness, as well as uncertainty about your future. There is no real way to prepare for this flood of emotions, but once you recognize what is happening, you can do something about it instead of giving in to your feelings.

Consider these strategies when you feel out of control

You can attempt several tactics when you feel your emotions are getting the best of you. Taking a moment to pause and breathe works for many negative emotions. Deep breathing calms the mind, but it also allows you to focus on what you need to do. If you struggle with guilt or grief, tap into resources that will enable you to work out your emotions. Counseling is another option that can help you deal with a wide range of emotions.

Keeping emotions in check helps divorce negotiations

Keeping your emotions in check helps divorce negotiations, especially when it comes to splitting property equitably and figuring out child custody and visitation concerns. Keeping your emotions in check makes the process less fraught with controversy and negativity. You’ll get through negotiations and the final decree more quickly, which means you can get on with your new life.

Finding a middle ground is significant if you have children, as you need to create a new life that is as normal as possible. Working with your partner to accomplish a good divorce following a bad marriage will benefit everyone involved.